Valentine’s Day Hints – Tips on Speaking to your Lover Partner Spouse

Each person has a preferred way to be spoken to.  How you touch and play the “heart strings” of those you love and care about differs according to many factors.  Their personality type and what they most deeply value are two important elements that drive their feelings and behavior.  When you are able to hit upon the messaging that works for them, that creates their “symphony” and inner “singing” (like that song that you just can’t stop singing to yourself at times that lights you up), you will create a harmony and positive response.  Closeness and trust are likely to follow.

Valentine’s Day Hints

Valentines Day is an important day to many people, whether they celebrate or not.  Because it goes on around us, even if we poo-poo, it there is a social context we operate in.  As social beings (even if we are introverts), humans are touched by the social fabric we are brought up in and wear culturally.  The excitement and trepidation of “getting it right” and feeling special on Valentine’s Day has at least a little effect on each of us.  This may be conscious or subconscious, or both. It might only be a 10% influence or it might be 150%.  No matter the degree, our emotional intelligence picks up on it to some extent.

Thus, we might as well give it a little attention.

If you know the predominant personality type of your loved ones, or wished for “person of interest,” you are more likely to vibrate their heart strings in a positive way.  That is good for them, for you, and for society as a whole.  If you don’t know the predominant personality, figure it out by playing the BANK code cards at www.Four-Cards.com.  Then, use the following as some Valentine’s Day hints and tips.

The BLUEPRINT likes routine and safety.  Plan out the Valentine’s Day event in advance and let them know what to expect – at least 1 week in advance. During the event or after giving them a lavish gift be prepared to justify the cost by mentioning any discount you were able to negotiate! It may sound odd, but they appreciate a good deal.

The ACTION loves fun and excitement. Sponteneity is a common value, so even if you plan out the event make it a surprise or at least surprise them with something during a planned event.  And tell them how fun they are! Brand name gifts are especially spot on.

The NURTURING is often about others.  Emphasize the relationship. Talk about the two of you – how much you trust them and how much their caring for others means to you.  Maybe attend a charity event related to Valentine’s day or make a donation to their favorite cause (in addition to giving them something).

The KNOWLEDGE is usually pretty logical and has some emotional intelligence challenges.  Explain to them the logic and rationale of going to the event together – maybe consider something related to science or even a comicon-like costume party.  Watching reruns of “Big Bang Theory” or “Scorpion” or going to the most recent “Star Wars” movie would be a great match to get them excited.

These Valentine’s Day hints and tips are not set in stone, but they might help you create the kind of event that is memorable – and that is the point of Valentine’s Day (besides the commercial aspects that predominate so much of it).

Keep in mind that BANK Code personality typing has applications far beyond Valentine’s Day.  It is being applied in education, business, and clinical settings to improve student performance, sales statistics, and treatment outcomes.  Trainings are available online and in person – contact the author for the options you are looking for to improve communication and results.