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Valentine’s Day Hints

Valentine’s Day Hints – Tips on Speaking to your Lover Partner Spouse

 

Each person has a preferred way to be spoken to.  How you touch and play the “heart strings” of those you love and care about differs according to many factors.  Their personality type and what they most deeply value are two important elements that drive their feelings and behavior.  When you are able to hit upon the messaging that works for them, that creates their “symphony” and inner “singing” (like that song that you just can’t stop singing to yourself at times that lights you up), you will create a harmony and positive response.  Closeness and trust are likely to follow.

 

Valentine’s Day Hints

Valentines Day is an important day to many people, whether they celebrate or not.  Because it goes on around us, even if we poo-poo, it there is a social context we operate in.  As social beings (even if we are introverts), humans are touched by the social fabric we are brought up in and wear culturally.  The excitement and trepidation of “getting it right” and feeling special on Valentine’s Day has at least a little effect on each of us.  This may be conscious or subconscious, or both. It might only be a 10% influence or it might be 150%.  No matter the degree, our emotional intelligence picks up on it to some extent.

Thus, we might as well give it a little attention.

If you know the predominant personality type of your loved ones, or wished for “person of interest,” you are more likely to vibrate their heart strings in a positive way.  That is good for them, for you, and for society as a whole.  If you don’t know the predominant personality, figure it out by playing the BANK code cards at www.Four-Cards.com.  Then, use the following as some Valentine’s Day hints and tips.

The BLUEPRINT likes routine and safety.  Plan out the Valentine’s Day event in advance and let them know what to expect – at least 1 week in advance. During the event or after giving them a lavish gift be prepared to justify the cost by mentioning any discount you were able to negotiate! It may sound odd, but they appreciate a good deal.

 

The ACTION loves fun and excitement. Sponteneity is a common value, so even if you plan out the event make it a surprise or at least surprise them with something during a planned event.  And tell them how fun they are! Brand name gifts are especially spot on.

 

The NURTURING is often about others.  Emphasize the relationship. Talk about the two of you – how much you trust them and how much their caring for others means to you.  Maybe attend a charity event related to Valentine’s day or make a donation to their favorite cause (in addition to giving them something).

 

The KNOWLEDGE is usually pretty logical and has some emotional intelligence challenges.  Explain to them the logic and rationale of going to the event together – maybe consider something related to science or even a comicon-like costume party.  Watching reruns of “Big Bang Theory” or “Scorpion” or going to the most recent “Star Wars” movie would be a great match to get them excited.

These Valentine’s Day hints and tips are not set in stone, but they might help you create the kind of event that is memorable – and that is the point of Valentine’s Day (besides the commercial aspects that predominate so much of it).

Keep in mind that BANK Code personality typing has applications far beyond Valentine’s Day.  It is being applied in education, business, and clinical settings to improve student performance, sales statistics, and treatment outcomes.  Trainings are available online and in person – contact the author for the options you are looking for to improve communication and results.

Valentine’s Day Advice – Match the Gift to the Person(ality)

Valentine’s Day Advice – Match the Gift to the Person(ality)

Is Valentine’s Day still relevant or an anachronism? Do people really care about it? What is good Valentine’s Day Advice?

I say “Poo-Poo Valentine’s at your own peril.”

Articles abound on the disappointment people express about the way their lovers, spouses, and partners celebrated with them. Whether it was a gift, an outing, a romantic or thrilling night out, Valentine’s day is about feelings and caring. And need I say more about the emphasis on Emotional Intelligence nowadays? (And yet, was it ever not important?)

For example, Beyonce, Lady Gaga, Ivanka Trump, and Oprah are all women who would like a great Valentine’s Day experience. They each can probably give themselves almost anything they might like, but coming from someone else makes it more special and memorable.
Creating memories is what life is all about according to experts in the field of having life fulfillment.

The gift has to match the person for it to be a memorable experience and hit the heart. Not a small task in many relationships. Examples of this are shown in this TV appearance I made in Albuquerque New Mexico.

Matching the Gift to the Person

The Valentine’s Day gift works best if it fits the personality style of the recipient. Often the giver misses the mark. A disappointing Valentine’s Day “gift” is worse than no gift at all.

Am I wrong about this?

As a bestselling author and Certified B.A.N.K. Personality Typing Relationship Trainer and keynote speaker, I feel confident stating that “matching the gift using personality styles is the best approach to hitting a homerun this Valentine’s Day.” This is coming from someone who has had his share of strikeouts, starting in elementary school!

Finding out Your Personality Type

So how do you apply B.A.N.K. Code personality types to choosing the gift or experience? First and foremost, it is always about the other person. Like in sales, you focus on the needs and desires of the other person. Start out by finding out the personality type of your “giftee” (the person receiving the gift).

Step 1: Tell the giftee that you want to really know more about them. Then, go online with them to figure out their code. Go together with them to Four-Cards.com and then each of you “play the cards.”

Step 2: Have your partner share the results with you. Just ask them to read the report that they get in their email to you. Just listen without judgment. Take it in and acknowledge when they say “This is just like me.”

Step 3: Pay attention – these are the keys to making a memorable gift or experience or both. You can even take notes on a piece of paper. Listening with attention while your partner talks about her/himself is very nourishing. That sharing experience alone goes a long way toward setting up the Valentine’s Day experience.

Note of Caution: During the reading you might want to inject your opinion — I suggest just buttoning your lips. Come on, who said love is easy? Still, being quiet and attentive will leave you telling yourself “I’m so glad I followed Dr. Jay’s advice.” Jumping in with your opinion is just your personality speaking – take note if this tendency happens and curb it. (I struggle with this as well.)

In addition to taking notes on the comments about the BANK Code report your giftee makes, here are a few insider tips about how to decide on what to give to create connection, fun, and intimacy. Even with the person who doesn’t express emotions very openly.

Hints on the Four Types

The Four Types are BLUEPRINT, ACTION, NURTURING and KNOWLEDGE. This is why it is called B.A.N.K. code. Because you have already “played the cards” (if you haven’t, do it NOW), you will have an idea about the predominant personality type of your giftee. So what type of events might be most satisfying and show that you care about the other person?

First of all, for the BLUEPRINT type, plan ahead. Tell her/him in advance of what you will do together. No last-minute stuff. Planning ahead will touch the Blueprint type – this is because s/he likes safety.

The NURTURING type likes to take care of others. They might not like the attention on them. So finding a charity event, with lots of hugging, might melt the NURTURING’s heart. Or a family event.

How about the ACTION? Spontaneity and surprise sparks fire in the Action. Even if you make a plan in advance, leave some mystery surrounding what you will do. If they know where and when the event is, still have some surprises in store when you get there. Fun and high energy are their oxygen.

And then there is the KNOWLEDGE. Often less emotive, an intellectual or scientific event (sounds weird for Valentine’s Day, doesn’t it?) is more what resonates with them. (Again, refer to your notes from the “playing the cards” session on what really made them light up and what they identified with. Those notes will help individualize the gift.) Going to a sci-fi movie, a reading of Star Wars poetry, or hanging out at a Comicon-style event will impress the Big Bang Theory type KNOWLEDGE type.

Whatever you end of doing, make it all about them. Listen, sense what is wanted, and have some fun.

Good Luck and let me know with your comments or feedback on how it went!

Dr. Doug shares how to decrease chronic stress that hinders fat loss using food as medicine, lifestyle changes, and nutraceuticals.

Dr. Doug shares how to decrease chronic stress that hinders fat loss using food as medicine, lifestyle changes, and nutraceuticals.

Opioid Addiction

Opioid addiction

Opioid addiction is at all time highs in the US. Television, radio, magazines, newspapers, blogs, and politicians are all ranting about the opioid addiction problem in this country. The basis of this addiction is typically a pain condition that was initially treated with opioids like oxycodone – supposed to be a short term therapeutic regimen – but that turned into long term dependence.

Alternatives exist – such as acupuncture to increase endorphins in the brain, and NRCT (Neurologic relief center technique) that may be helpful to reduce the nerve irritations that can cause pain syndromes not addressed in other ways. Mindfulness, hypnotherapy, guided imagery and a variety of natural supplements can also be effective interventions to replace the addictive opioids or to reduce the dependence over time.

THE OPIOID ADDICTION EPIDEMIC STATISTICS

By far, the opioid crisis is one of the worst epidemics to hit the United States.

More than 2.4 million Americans have reportedly abused opioid medications, many of which are formulated to match pain-reducing properties of opium, including legal painkillers like morphine, oxycodone, and hydrocodone.

Others have turned to heroin and fentanyl.

Making it worse, according to U.S. governors, as noted by NBC Chicago:

“The federal government needs to do more to block illicit versions of synthetic drugs such as fentanyl from being shipped into the U.S. Last year, the Department of Justice issued indictments of two Chinese companies accused of sending fentanyl illegally into the U.S., one of several anti-opioid moves by the federal government.”

It’s gotten so bad that since 1999, the number of accidental deaths involving opioids has quadrupled. In fact, it’s been reported that 91 Americans die every day from it.

In 2015, 52,000 Americans died from opioid abuse.

According to The U.S. Council of Economic Advisers (CEA):“CEA estimates that in 2015, the economic cost of the opioid crisis was $504.0 billion, or 2.8 percent of GDP that year. This is over six times larger than the most recently estimated economic cost of the epidemic.”In 2016, that number exploded to 63,600. In 2017, early data has it up to 66,000.

It’s why President Donald Trump declared the opioid crisis a “public health emergency.”

“We have to be careful because there’s a drug epidemic the likes of which we’ve never seen in this country,” he added. “I will be pushing the concept of non addictive painkillers very, very hard. We’re going to be spending lots of money on coming up with a non-addictive solutions.”

ALTERNATIVES TO OPIOID ADDICTION AT THE REDWOOD CLINIC

Alternatives exist – such as acupuncture to increase endorphins in the brain, and NRCT (Neurologic relief center technique) that may be helpful to reduce the nerve irritations that can cause pain syndromes not addressed in other ways. Mindfulness, hypnotherapy, guided imagery and a variety of natural supplements can also be effective interventions to replace the addictive opioids or to reduce the dependence over time.

The functional medicine approach is also very important to get your body’s systems back into balance.

Opioids severely alter the digestive and elimination systems. They are the basis for getting nutrition in your system and the foundation of a healthy immune system. When those are malfunctioning, the brain also is effected directly, and then the natural opiates produced by the brain and elsewhere, the endorphins and enkephalins are thrown out of balance. As are the feel-good biochemicals of serotonin and dopamine.

To break the addiction cycle the body’s natural feel good and pain reducing chemicals must be activated. Functional medicine is the most effective approach for this as it reduces dependence on pharmaceutical agents that cause numerous side effects.

Call us today at The Redwood Clinic +1-510-849-1176 to set up your functional medicine consultation. Delay only makes the addiction worse.

Lead in School Water – Multipure the answer

Lead in School Water – Multipure the answer

Berkeley and Oakland and other schools in California have been found to have lead in school water and water fountains have been shut off. The presence of lead in school water at levels that the pediatric physician association considers dangerous is below the EPA standards. Installing Multipure water purification systems in the schools would be a great solution to the issue. However, how about the water in the HOMES of the students and teachers as well? If there is lead in school water, then for sure it is also in the tap water of homes. Multipure is the most well studied and qualified system that addresses not only lead in school water but also the industrial chemicals that also cause brain and body degeneration.

Is there much about this topic in the internet? Look below for a page one dump on the key word search “lead in school water california.”

Drinking lead: Why California may force all schools to test their water
https://www.mercurynews.com/…/drinking-lead-why-california-may-force-all-schools…
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Aug 22, 2017 – Daniel Wills, a plumber with the Los Angeles Unified School District Maintenance and Operations Branch repairs and replaces one of hundreds of old fountains that were found to have high levels of lead in the water at John H Francis Polytechnic Senior High in Sun Valley. (Nancy Pastor, for CALmatters).
Extreme level of lead at SF school gym fountain, among 30 taps failing …
www.sfgate.com/…/Extreme-level-of-lead-at-SF-school-gym-fountain-12318511.php
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Nov 1, 2017 – A growing list of schools across the state are posting high levels of lead flowing out of faucets after the water crisis in Flint, Mich. — in which corrosion of pipes led to leaching of lead into the city water supply — led California officials to push for testing, especially in schools.
3 San Francisco public schools show high levels of lead in water …
www.sfgate.com/news/…/Three-San-Francisco-public-schools-show-high-12306785.p…
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Oct 27, 2017 – Water samples from taps and drinking fountains at three San Francisco public schoolscontained elevated levels of lead, potentially exposing students to the toxic metal, district officials said Wednesday. District officials immediately shut down the taps and this week notified parents at West Portal and …
Lead in Drinking Water in Schools and Childcare Facilities – EPA
https://www.epa.gov/dwreginfo/lead-drinking-water-schools-and-childcare-facilities
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May 19, 2017 – The 15 ppb action level for PWSs is therefore a trigger for treatment rather than a health-based or exposure level. EPA recommends that schools collect 250 ml first-draw samples fromwater fountains and outlets.
Why Are School Water Fountains So Susceptible to Lead Poisoning?

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www.govtech.com/…/Why-Are-School-Water-Fountains-So-Susceptible-to-Lead-Pois…
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Jul 27, 2016 – New York is set to become the first state to require schools to regularly test their waterfor lead. But it’s far from the only place with the problem.
Lead, arsenic, copper found in drinking water at some NorCal schools
www.kcra.com/article/lead-arsenic-copper-found-in…water-at…schools/13533575
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Nov 13, 2017 – KCRA 3 tests water fountains at 24 Sacramento-San Joaquin Valley schools; these are the results.
Lead taints drinking water in hundreds of schools, day cares across USA
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2016/…water-lead-schools…/81220916/
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Mar 17, 2016 – Whenever Jamison Rich got thirsty after gym or recess, he took a drink from the nearestwater fountain at his elementary school. Only last month did his family learn that the water bubbling out of some fountains contained high levels of lead, a notorious toxin that can silently damage developing brains and …
Burbank Unified schools test negative for lead in water fountains …
www.latimes.com/socal/burbank-leader/…/tn-blr-me-water-report-20170711-story.ht…
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Jul 11, 2017 – Burbank parents can rest assured that their children will not be exposed to lead from any drinking fountain at any school in Burbank Unified. Burbank Water and Power recently published its 2016 annual Water Quality Report in the agency’s June 2017 issue of its Currents newsletter, which reported that …
Analyze This: Real data on lead levels in school drinking water …
https://www.sciencenewsforstudents.org/…/analyze-real-data-lead-levels-school-drinki…
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Analyze This: Real data on lead levels in school drinking water. Monitoring for lead (as in these data) is an important part of identifying risks to health. Lillian Steenblik Hwang. May 3, 2017 — 12:00 pm EST.water fountain. Water that appears clear and clean can be unsafe if it contains high amounts of lead, a toxic metal.
School drinking water will be tested for lead — after filters are installed …
https://thelensnola.org/…/school-drinking-water-will-be-tested-for-lead-after-filters-are…
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Oct 27, 2017 – The Orleans Parish School Board is finally moving ahead with the filters. But it looks like they will not meet a self-imposed deadline to have them installed this fall. They plan to test water fountains and kitchen fixtures after the filters are installed. At that point, the tests are virtually guaranteed to show no lead …

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Migraines are a big problem. They affect millions of people and are responsible for billions of dollars in healthcare costs. Mark Hyman, MD

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Have you taken statins? What has your experience been?

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Listen to find out how your digestive system can impact your risk of getting cancer >> http://balancedbites.com/episode304/ cc: Elizabeth B

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cc: Elizabeth Boham, M.D.

In 6 months, Dave Wright lost 100 pounds and was able to stop most of his medications including Metformin. His advice is if you follow the

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